This book is written in an anecdotal style that makes for easy reading. It is geared somewhat to the clinician who works with people undergoing great difficulties. However, anyone who finds Choice Theory a useful paradigm would gain greater understanding through reading this book. By demonstrating how the same perspective can be brought to bear on a wide variety of human suffering, Glasser shows the effectiveness of his theory in a very practical way. I feel far more confident in working in this paradigm after reading this book.
a journal of my search for sustainability in all manner of ways, but most especially by reading and pondering and living and loving
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Sunday, November 6, 2011
Counseling with Choice Theory
This book is written in an anecdotal style that makes for easy reading. It is geared somewhat to the clinician who works with people undergoing great difficulties. However, anyone who finds Choice Theory a useful paradigm would gain greater understanding through reading this book. By demonstrating how the same perspective can be brought to bear on a wide variety of human suffering, Glasser shows the effectiveness of his theory in a very practical way. I feel far more confident in working in this paradigm after reading this book.
Energy Anatomy
She spends a good deal of time delving into the ways we waste our energy and power, and how to recognize when we do this. She uses the language of economics, describing how we finance thoughtforms with our energy- even things we'd rather not be contributing to. When we really take a look at where our energy is going, we can get a sense of how much more energy we could have if we stop financing thoughts that don't serve us.
If you don't mind challenging questions and uncomfortable answers that are simultaneously liberating, this book may invite you to a new perspective on your situation. I listened to this as an audiobook, and found that listening to Carolyn Myss speak her own truth was an experience worth taking the time for.
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Unhappy Teenagers
From this vantage point, he encourages parents and counselors to look at the actions teens take as attempts to assert some control over their own lives. Rather than exerting more external control mechanisms, such as punishment and rules, he suggests recognizing that we really can't control other people. In doing so, we can empower teens to recognize the choices they are making and learn how to make choices that better serve them.
Glasser feels that relationships are the fundamental thing. Since we can't control teens when they are out of earshot (or even when they are nearby), we need to control how we treat them, so that they will continue to feel that we are in their corner. By supporting the relationship and our connection with them, we can help them to develop their relationship with their own inner knowing. When they no longer feel that we are against them, they can free up their energy to figure out just exactly what it is that they are for.
Friday, October 28, 2011
MIndfulness Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression
In Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression, the authors bring an Eastern approach to managing the increasingly common issue of depression. Just last week, an article in the news proclaimed that 1 in 10 Americans are on antidepressants , and that most of them do not seek therapy in conjunction with pharmaceutical treatment. This is unfortunate. "Antidepressants drugs do not provide a long-term cure. Their effects do not outlast their use." They can be instrumental in keeping a depressive episode from becoming severe, but it is important to do therapeutic work as well in order to change the way the brain is functioning. This is where MBCT has proven itself successful.
It turns out that "negative thinking could itself cause a depression… [and] could certainly maintain the episode once it started." This tendency to ruminate on negative feelings does not help, and is in fact, counterproductive. Unfortunately, people in depressed states have a tendency to do just that, which can feed their feelings of hopelessness and despair. Rather than feeding or fighting these feelings, MBCT helps people develop a new relationship with their thoughts.
Mindfulness based practice teaches people to watch their mental and somatic processes intentionally and non-judgmentally. This observation can help people to understand that their "thoughts are not facts." As Jon Kabat-Zinn explains, "It is remarkable how liberating it feels to see that your thoughts are just thoughts and that they are not 'you' or reality." In fact, a core skill of MBCT is "to teach the ability to recognize and disengage from mind states characterized by self-perpetuating patterns of ruminative, negative thought." This invaluable skill teaches people how to direct their attention and to reduce the amount of energy they expend in these self-defeating habits.
Although there are definite benefits to mindfulness based practice, it is important to remain non-attached to outcome. It is "easy to believe deep down that success is achieved when we are with the breath and failure occurs when the mind wanders." In fact, one of the most useful ideas in this book was the concept that "it is just as valuable to become aware that the mind has wandered and to bring it back as to remain fixed on the chosen object of attention." In our goal-oriented culture, it is easy to fall into the trap of self-judgment, even while meditating. One can become overly concerned with whether they are 'doing it right' as they internalize the 'God-as-Judge' meme. This is why it is so important to approach this work with a sense of acceptance and self-compassion. Even long-time meditators have wandering thoughts. They just have developed a different relationship with them. They are aware that "just because your thoughts are compelling, doesn't make them true." Once we understand this truth, we can stop identifying so strongly with our thoughts. This can take the charge out of our inner critic and help us tune in to a different channel that supports and nurtures our growth and healing.
Understanding that it is the process of returning to the breath itself that helps us remember to return to a grounded and centered state in times of stress. This practice of returning is the most useful thing I learned in this book.
Friday, October 14, 2011
The Mindful Path of Self-Compassion
Wisdom says, "I am nothing."
Between these two my life flows.
~ Nisagradatta Maharaj
Our culture teaches us that happiness depends on external circumstances, but that is not really the case. In The Mindful Path to Self Compassion, Christopher K. Germer, PhD., states that 2/3 of people without chronic back pain display the same structural dysfunction as those experiencing pain. In another study, job satisfaction was found to be a predictor of developing low back pain. Buddhist psychology instead teaches that it is our relationship with our pain that is the problem, and that acceptance may be a more effective strategy than fighting against our troubles. "What we resist, persists."
Germer offers simple and effective strategies for changing our ingrained habits of resistance. Mindfulness meditation is neurological reprogramming that helps us cultivate a calmer and less reactive state. Since "Neurons that fire together, wire together," we can practice paying attention to what we are doing. This allows us to be more intentional in our lives on many levels. By practicing intentional attention in formal sitting practice, we can develop habits of mindfulness that can serve us in times of stress and difficulty.
Having meditated before, I was surprised to feel how different a consistent Metta practice could make me feel. Practicing being kind to myself has transformed my relationship with other people as well. I find myself more able to be present. Even better, I am remembering to judge myself less when I make mistakes, and to help stop others from beating themselves up as well. I think Germer said it very well: "Give yourself the attention you need so you don't need so much attention." This frees up our energy to be more present for others, and lets kindness move through us to do good work in the world. After all, "[t]ransforming relationships with others starts with us; it is an inside job."
Friday, October 7, 2011
Learning Is What We Do
Thursday, September 15, 2011
The Chalice and the Blade: Our History, Our Future
On closer inspection, however, the picture is less clear than we have long believed. I was surprised to learn that archaeology, as a science, only became serious after World War II. Before this time, Egyptology and the like were mostly a front for imperialistic grave robbers, vying for the shiniest addition to their national museums. Dating of artifacts was done through assumption until the advent of carbon 14 technology and dendrochronography. All of this combined created a vision of the past that was heavily tainted by the expectations and experience of those who unearthed ancient sites.
Proper dating technology has painted a new picture of the ancient past. It seems that in many parts of Old Europe, there were Goddess worshiping cultures that harnessed their intelligence towards creating healthy communities. In these cities, sometimes occupied for millenia, there is no evidence of weapons, ruler-kings, or the glorification of war. In fact, some sites were occupied for thousands of years without any evidence of war. These cultures showed a surprising equality between the sexes, as well as a lack of hierarchy. The concentration of wealth by the powerful that we take for granted is something that came much later.
As the nomadic herding tribes migrated into the regions occupied by these Neolithic culture, they found great wealth and little defensive technology. The cities were rather ripe for the plucking. Once this occurred, people reorganized their focus, working hard to develop weapons technology for offensive and defensive purposes. This arms race continues in the present day.
The unfortunate side effect of this race is that early technological advances in city planning, in art, and other technologies of peace were put aside in the face of this new human created danger. Earlier assumptions about the dates of some primitive looking artifacts turned out to be wrong; after war came to these cultures, their technological development came to a halt, and much technology was lost and forgotten.
These peaceful Neolithic cultures predate Sumer by millennia. Sumer is often recognized as the cradle of civilization; it would be better to describe it as the cradle of modern culture of warfare. Eisler calls these cultures "dominator cultures", whereas the earlier Goddess worshiping groups engaged in a partnership model. By the time that Sumer was in full swing, the partnership model had been overcome by the warrior culture of the nomadic steppes.
As we hurtle into the 21st century, we spend unthinkable amounts of resources coming with better ways to kill each other. The amount of resources spent on military budgets worldwide could transform our world if we put them to better use. We have the technology to feed, clothe, and house people, but as long as we surrender to the dominator model, resources will continue to be concentrated in the hands of the few while the many suffer from need and lack. Eisler urges us to give up the old ways of aggressive ranking and warfare, and create a new world in which we find solutions that work to build communities, create prosperity, and improve the quality of life for our entire human family.
Thursday, September 8, 2011
Last Child in the Woods
Luckily, there are forces at work that are planning for a brighter future. Louv explores the success that some European countries have had with greening their urban spaces. Cities across America are working hard to preserve their open spaces, and to create more livable communities. Sustainability has evolved from a buzzword to a metric of public planning. Meanwhile, educators are discovering the real benefits of natural experience, and these ideas are being increasingly incorporated into schools and communities. He describes programs that connect farmers and hatcheries with schools, giving students opportunities for hands-on experience that can prove life changing. He paints a picture of the future in which our kids (and their kids) actually figure out how to divide resources, land, and responsibility in ways that are truly sustainable and foster health, connection, and community. We have the resources, technologies, and responsibility to make this a universal priority for all of us right now. It may be what saves us all.
Saturday, May 28, 2011
If you have always suspected that quantum physics implies much about the nature of biology, neurology, and sociology, this book will give you much to ponder. I recommend this book to anyone who is interested in taking the helm of their own healing voyage and improving this world we live in together.
Monday, May 16, 2011
On the Quantum Nature of Education
Saturday, May 14, 2011
The Four Questions revisted
I am learning more than I can put into words, and words do my learning little justice. Yet that is the language of academia, and a right and proper way to record the experience of growth and change.
I set out this quarter to discover how to approach my life more sustainably. I read to discover a sense of context, and Zinn and Freire both inspired me to be a less complacent participant in this play of now that our world is dancing. My experience fits into a larger picture of power, class, and what it means to be human in ways that give my life texture and pattern. Yet I know the power of intention; harnessing this is harnessing the soul of our divinity. We can do this with our emotions, with our minds, and with our bodies. We can feed that which feeds us. We can stop feeding our trolls. We can become our own most beautiful creations.
This is the heart of sustenance: how do we invest our attention in ways that bring us the most bounteous harvest of existence? How do we make systems that keep energy flowing and creativity possible?
Energy moves in circles and waves. I think when we can recognize rhythm and account for it in living, we have a better chance of finding wellness. There are days and nights, winter and summer, ebb and flow. These things exist in a circular spectrum, where each part flows into the next. I feel that our culture refuses to recognize the power in these rhythms, and seeks to make rigid that which should move.
In order to be sustainable, I need to be able to flex more gracefully in the context of my life. I feel that self-employment is the only way in which I will be able to create that sort of movement.
On Fascia and Social Change
Friday, May 13, 2011
My latest thoughts
I have been wrapped in diversity studies lately, and have been pondering the effects of culture, gender, race and class. I am learning that people are all unique in their interpretations of this; every experience paints an entirely new picture of what it means to be human. I think it is important to also remember that we are not just these bodies, and in this way are transcendent of culture. We are all beings of Spirit, fractal expressions of the Source in all of it's creative glory. This expresses the way in which we are One, and connected. People are so easily wrapped up in identity because that is what we use to experience existence. But there is a place where there is no you and no me and this is the place I want to remember, because it makes dealing gracefully with the ingrained habits and responses of ego much more possible.
I have been thinking a lot about the ideas of liberation that Paolo Freire discusses in his Pedagogy of the Oppressed. It seems to me that the only thing that can lead to our mutual salvation is the realization of each human potential. Only the individual really knows how to chart their own path; we can, however all be resources to each other to support, educate, and connect with others on their journeys. An important first step that I have been working on this quarter is the banishment of hierarchacal relationships in my life, where I can manage to effect this. One place where I can access this road to power is my professional life as a massage therapist. I currently work as an employee, where I rent out my labor to another for a fixed fee, while he charges whatever he can for my time. This bothers me on ethical grounds, and it interferes with my authentic relationship with my clientele. I admit that this road is easier in many ways; someone else is taking care of many details which are bothersome and boring. I don't have to worry much about advertising, and I can save thinking about work for the days I am in the office.
Yet I am constrained in what I do, and unmotivated by the lack of possible improvement of financial possibilities as an employee. I have effectively reached my earning limit, unless I choose to devote more hours of my life to a situation in which I feel constrained by my environment. If I choose, however, to devote myself to my practice as a way of serving and moving through my community, I know I will move to the next level of professionalism, process, and practice. I can negotiate each relationship using what I have learned from William Glasser's Choice Theory, and know that the arrangements I agree to are a result of my own efforts at authentic relationship and communication.
This is all as intimidating as it is exciting. Perhaps that is the same thing? I know that going into practice for myself is a new way of being present for my community, without the buffer of someone else to arrange the work. This is scary because I am a private person, and value the time when I am answerable to no one. This will change the scope of that, but I feel it is the only way to put the call out to the Universe that I am ready to dance the big dance, where we give and receive and twirl and sing and make experience for each other to savor.
The compost I am adding to the soil of my mental processes is the idea of fascia. Fascia: my favorite aspect of anatomy. There was a fascial conference in 2009 in which the very nature of anatomical perspective was shaken out of its reductionist roots. Thinking about muscles as isolated structures has no real meaning as they never act in isolation. The fascia, too, is a singular connected mesh of collagen and fluid that creates the shape of our flesh and the patterns of our movement. Thinking in this way informs my professional work in ways that create more lasting change. It is good to know that academia is supporting my approach to the work I do, which is something that I have sometimes struggled to express in more conventional assessment language.
Studying small business administration, education, diversity and somatics will make me a better asset to my community, increasing my ability to help others get from where they are to where they want to be.
Sunday, May 8, 2011
The Four Questions
1: What will I learn?
I will learn how to create a more sustainable life.
2: How will I learn it?
Through reading, reflective writing, dialogue, and practice, I will explore what sustainability means to me on a personal scale. I will explore Wellness as an integral key to making positive change in the world, examining the ideas of sustainability in terms of Cognitive, Emotional, and Somatic experience.
3: How will I know that I learned it?
I will keep a journal recording my readings and explorations. I will make a bibliography listing the texts I found useful in my studies. I will keep a blog, to share what I learn and think with others.
4: What difference will it make?
As an educator and health care professional, I am poised to facilitate a healing change in consciousness in a diverse population of people. Increasing embodied awareness in myself will give me authentic knowledge and skills to share with my community. Helping create a future in which we get out of our heads and into our bodies will put us in touch with inner knowledge that can heal our bodies, our relationships, and our planet.
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Week 4
Monday, April 18, 2011
Week 3 Wrap-up
Sunday, April 10, 2011
attention
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Week 2 Wrap-up
Monday, April 4, 2011
New Directions in Mindfulness
In the program Ceremony: Relating Hospitably to the Land, it is my intention to bring the power of presence and attention to the study of education, wellness, and right livelihood. Creating a sustainable life is the foundation of empowerment; through our conscious attention we can learn to craft the life we wish for, and create a strong foundation for doing good work in the world. There are many aspects to this journey, and it often seems to me that indeed, everything relates to this work.
In this first week, I am reading ‘A Young People’s History of the United States’ by Howard Zinn. I have read the adult version before, and am reading this one as both a review for myself and a preview for my 11yo son. My husband is reading the original, as well. We are already having family seminar time about the material, and I am excited to finish it up and let my son have a turn with it.
Already, there is much to think about. This country we live in has so many faces, and so many stories. Many of them are quite harsh. I am often uncomfortable with this sort of material, as a descendant of both the conquered and the conquerors. It brings up many feelings, and helps me understand some of the things I am seeking in life
Sunday, March 27, 2011
The Brain That Changes Itself
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Sustainability in the home, continued
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Spring Quarter: Sustainability in the Home
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Somatics: The Myth of Aging
Most people suffer from pain and discomfort at some point in their lives. When this follows an injury, it is easy to watch the play of cause and effect. This can allow us some feeling of control during our healing process as we regain lost function and strength. When we don’t know why we hurt, we can feel like victims of our own bodies. When we ask our doctors for help, they offer drugs for pain, and tell us to buck up and accept our lot. We are growing older, after all. What else should we expect? Everyone knows that bodies wear out eventually.
Hanna challenges this idea. He points out that although this is true for many people today, there are also many circumstances in which people maintain function and vitality right up to the very end. Gerontologists call this “successful aging.” Rather than dismiss such cases as oddities, Hanna thinks we should embrace them as possibilities, and learn how to make our own lives turn out like theirs.
Five case studies are reviewed in the course of the book. In each case, through guided movements, flexibility is restored and pain is alleviated. Several of the cases are quite extraordinary; one woman regained the use of her frozen shoulder after just one treatment, despite almost two unsuccessful years of conventional treatment. Another case involved a man who had not been able to straighten his knee for almost two years. He rediscovered how to control what he had once given up as lost.
Although Somatics is full of information for the professional, it is very accessible to the lay reader as well. He uses clear language that anyone can understand. After describing commonly seen habits of movement, he gives us the keys to unlock our own blockages through simple exercises that almost anyone can do. These slow movements rebalance our structure by bringing awareness to the way we actually move our bodies, and teach us how to develop more balanced ways of moving.
The final chapter includes his basic movement explorations. His exercises are simple, mild, and brief. He offers a series of lessons, in which the reader may explore different areas of the body. By encouraging the reader to reacquaint themselves with their movements, he invites us to take our own steps on this healing path. And if my brief explorations with this work are any guide, change really is possible. I would recommend this book to anyone who is looking to find a new sense of vitality, movement, and freedom in their body. And really, who isn’t?